With a few exceptions, I’ve tried to keep this blog out of the realm of my personal life, choosing to focus more on my books (with the occasional post about autism or video games). This particular subject is one that straddles both my personal and business sides.
It’s no big secret I was divorced last October (although I’m not sure everyone knows I was recently married again on March 9th). At the time, we did our best to keep things amicable. Do to the fact we didn’t know what the future would bring, we made arrangements to make sure my ex would be well taken care of. We made verbal agreements to help each other out whenever necessary, and to keep things civil for the sake of our daughter.
This worked well (as far as I was aware) until quite recently. Suddenly, the ugliness of divorce we should have faced and moved on from several months ago is now at my feet, and the civility we shared even a week ago seems to have crumbled into nothingness. It’s a sad turn of events, and I won’t go into any egregious details here. Suffice it to say, there are hurt feelings on both sides, wounds that, perhaps, will never heal.
So my question to you all is this: do you think it would be wrong for me to change the dedication found in my older books?
Right now, my first few (four?) books are dedicated to my ex, as she was who I was with at the time. But I cringe every time I open up the book and see that right in the front. I’ll still give her credit for her cover work, but I’d rather dedicate the books solely to my daughter if that’s an option. I suppose it’s akin to tearing up old pictures of someone who hurt you, but this is something I’ve put out there for public consumption.
What say you, fellow readers/authors/people with opinion? Should I leave the dedications as they are, a mark of what was? Or do I update them to exclude her, symbolizing moving on to what will be?
Or am I the only person who would even worry about such a thing?
Thanks for reading,